Is Love Marriage Good Or Bad ???

Hi Friends!!!
This is JiMy married to my Love ten years back on 15th of August 1999,In the beginning it was really the HEAVENLY DAYS for 3/4yrs,But.......... as the time passed by HEAVENLY DAYS turned to HELL DAYS,as I had to impose some RESTRICTION on my Love/Wife,So as to follow the traditions of my family and boundations of the society in which we live in.
Secondly,I found that my Love/Wife wanted to have control over me,and this was completely against the nature of Indian Male to rule over Female.
Thirdly,She wanted me to explain each and every thing Or you can say,wanted me to take her permission before doing/indulging in any thing of day to day matter,which is not possible for me to do with punctuality.
And the last and most important is that:- In early days of our marriage I shared each and every secrets of my life with her(Girl friends and my relationship with them ) and now she is using the same secrets to BLACKMAIL me in order to get her wishes fullfilled.My Inlaws family interrupt in our Life,by giving their Unwanted Views & Wishes.( I wanted to settle at Mumbai with my Love/Wife,and also got the job there at AIRTEL Customer Care,but my brothers in law did not liked this,as they wanted me to work nearby their home place,which is not possible,as I can not get good job there)I had to leave Mumbai and come back to my native place at AZAMGARH being JOBLESS...!!!

Now I am totally confused in order to declare LOVE MARRIAGE GOOD OR BAD.
My life is totally ruined,I am not able to decide what to do,some sugested me for TALAQ,but I do not want to do this ,as I love my Love/Wife,she is orphan,Her mother died,when she was only 15/16yrs old,Father was there but only for name,did not bother about his children,as he married another woman,when my wifes Mom was alive.
Upto what level I have to do sacrifice to satisfy my wife and her brothers/sister.When will they stop interfearing in our Married life and family matters.........?????
Can any one in this world HELP me to get rid of this........?????